People get turned on by BDSM practices for a lot of reasons. You can start with beginner BDSM positions to experiment in the bedroom and spice up your sex life.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is the short-form for a wide range of sexual practices and techniques that involve bondage, dominance/submission, and sadomasochism. It generally involves partners taking a specific role in which one is dominant, whereas the other partner is submissive. These practices also involve things like pain play or roleplaying particular scenes. Some common BDSM practices include:
- Bondage
- Dominance/submission like BDSM slave positions or BDSM submissive positions
- Wax play
- Roleplay
- Spanking/Impact play
- Humiliation play
- Pain play/Sadism/masochism
- Edgeplay/Sensation play
We talk about how you can incorporate these practices and BDSM positions into your sex life below.
Introductory BDSM Positions
People find BDSM hot and exciting for all types of reasons. It allows people to experiment in the bedroom and try things they never thought could turn them on. Following are some beginner BDSM positions if you are looking to spice up your sex life:
BDSM Tied Positions
Tied to the bed in a missionary position: This modest upgrade to the missionary position is one of the best introductory BDSM bondage positions for beginners. It involves one partner tying the other’s arms to the headboard as they are stretched overhead, and they lie on their back, so he/she takes BDSM sub positions. If the bed does not have any slats, they can tie the hands together. They can then get on top, while the tied partner can only guide them using their voice and body.
Roughrider
This woman-on-top BDSM position takes things to another level when it comes to pain play. Teeth and fingernails are perfect for introducing some sensation and pain play into your bedroom. Women can get on top of their partner and get into a pleasurable rhythm. Their partner can utilize their nails to make them feel a slight pain mixed with the pleasure of coming close to an orgasm.
Oral Without Orgasm
This position involves going down on your partner and working them up until they are about to orgasm, but dialing things down, so they do not actually achieve an orgasm. Also referred to as edging, it one of the BDSM sex positions that require no additional accessories or sex toys. It involves teasing someone to the brink of orgasm but denying the release right when they are about to orgasm.
Blind Doggy
Blindfolds are a common prop used in a variety of BDSM sex positions. The sensory deprivation results in erotic anticipation and keeps you wondering as to what is about to happen next, where your partner will plant their next lick, kiss, or spanking. It gives them complete control. You do not have to invests in a real blindfold, a bandana, tie, or stockings are great substitutes.
While blindfolds can be exciting in any BDSM sex position, we recommend trying it in the doggy style position. It will allow your partner to touch and tease you from all directions, and you will not be able to see it coming. It adds a stranger-danger and an anticipation element, which is super exciting for most people.
Sensation Play
Sensation play involves utilizing different temperatures, sounds, aromas, textures, flavors, moisture levels, and aroma to arouse the body and brain in unique ways. The toys and props you can utilize for this are numerous. You can use anything from feathers, fur, satin, cotton balls, and silk, to hot wax, water, ice cubes, and leather. This way, one partner can dominate and control the other sexually by driving them crazy with the pleasure of all these different sensations.
The spoon position is perfect for sensation play. It will allow your partner to have access to both the front and back of your body while you cannot see them. Anticipate the sensations, and enjoy. Whether it is feathers teasing the clit or an ice cube running across the nipples, you will begin to feel excited and shivery.
How to Find a Partner
Perhaps you have a question, how to find a partner who would be interested in all these BDSM positions? Even though it is a very common practice and fantasy for a lot of couples and individuals, BDSM is generally considered taboo or deviant in our society. This can make it challenging for you to be open about your fetishes and kinks to any potential partner. Fortunately, online dating has bridged this gap. You can find thousands of individuals who are interested in this activity and open about their fantasies on the best BDSM dating sites.
