Jumping straight into hardcore BDSM can be intimidating and unpleasant for beginners. It’s important to introduce BDSM in your sex life with light activities.
How to Introduce Light BDSM to Your Bedroom Life
Every person has a personal comfort zone. Some people find BDSM rough, intimidating, and maybe even unpleasant, while others find it extremely exciting or intriguing. So, instead of providing hardcore suggestions that might make beginners feel uncomfortable, we have compiled several cheeky light BDSM tips that will add only a pinch of spice to your bedroom life.
Below we talk about how you can introduce light BDSM acts to your bedroom life in a way that matches your interests, intrigues, and kinks. It is time you experience the sheer joy of this activity, regardless of how kinky or vanilla you are!
Common Light BDSM Practices
Light BDSM stands for bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. We talk about the practices involving all of these below.
Bondage
Bondage can be a playful and light-hearted way to tease your partner, or it can help you maintain dominance and enforce strict rules. Handcuffs these days are common in bachelorette parties, so most people are familiar with them. However, these handcuffs tend to be flimsy and are not the best for bedroom playtime. If you want to try bondage, we suggest trying cuffs or neckties around the ankles or wrists. They they are less intimidating and ensure increased flexibility.
Domination
The domination/submissive dynamic involves one partner taking a dominant role, while the other being submissive. However, the couple can enjoy both roles. In which case, they can take turns being dominant and submissive.
Before introducing this to your bedroom life, it is crucial to communicate with your partner. The two of you can then talk out your individual interests, limits, and roles. It might take some experimenting for you to determine whether you are more submissive or dominant. After you and your partner establish the roles, the two of you can begin playing around. Many people already have this dynamic in their bedroom without realizing it. Because this includes when one partner scratches or bites skin, pulls hair or pins their partner down. You can also incorporate role-playing where one role is considered submissive and the other authoritative (such as student and teacher). These gentle activities are a great way to experiment with this dynamic.
Orgasm Denial
This is when an individual is kept in a state of arousal for a long time. It allows the partner to have complete control over their orgasm. This can help create sexual suspense and ensure a bigger and better orgasm.
Amateurs can experiment with this by keeping their partner aroused for a prolonged period but allowing them to reach climax after some time. If both of you find yourself enjoying this activity, you could try stimulation deprivation.
Flogging and Spanking
You can alter this exciting activity to make it suitable for light BDSM playtime. Flogging or light spanking involves placing impact/slapping an area of the body. The buttocks are the best place to begin for beginners.
Start off by gently caressing your partner’s butt. Then add a pinch and observe the reaction. If your partner seems to be enjoying it, take it as a signal to give a light spanking. You can also couple it with dirty-talk if you and your partner are into it.
The Importance of Aftercare
If you are completely new to the light BDSM world, you are probably not familiar with the idea of aftercare. However, it is an extremely important practice. It is something to remember as it ensures bother parties feel mentally, physically, and emotionally secure and safe.
Aftercare is done after playtime. It is when partners cuddle, kiss, caress, or/and discuss how they feel. While certain acts like flogging/hard spanking require more aftercare, such as applying lotion, emotional aftercare is also crucial. Communication not only helps bring partners closer but can also clear any possible misunderstanding about what preceded it.
To conclude, it is a way of showing sensuality and kindness in a way that your partner knows that he is respected and important. It ensures, both partners walk away not feeling used or discarded.
How to Find a Partner Interested in Light BDSM
The easier way to find a partner interested in light BDSM is via an online dating site. There are many light BDSM dating sites in the UK dedicated to this. All you need to do is sign up on one of these sites. After creating an account, you can use a filtered search to find partners who share the same kinks and fetishes as you.
